Letting Go of Friendships

Letting go of friendships

I love autumn.  The colours; browns, reds, oranges, yellows – all my favourites.   The weather; (depending on where you live, of course) you’re not disappointed anymore when it’s not such a warm and sunny day, you expect it to vary. And you can be grateful that the real cold hasn’t hit yet.  The clothes; you can still get away with t-shirts, get more wear out of lighter jackets and you can choose to wear your boots or a hat …

Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude

Attitude of Gratitude I Am A Triangle

“When life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate. And when life is bitter, say thank you and grow.” ~ Shauna Niequist Life overseas as an expat has its perks. Many times, moving overseas means living in a beautifully furnished house or apartment, provided by one’s employer, in a posh neighborhood. In many parts of the world, daily life suddenly includes cleaning ladies, cooks, nannies, and drivers. Our children have opportunities to attend world-class international schools, immerse in unique cultures, …

The Challenge of Feeling Settled Abroad

feeling settled abroad

My walls at home are bare. Two and a half years living in The Netherlands, and I’ve hung nothing – the Turkish plates that usually hang above the Chinese sideboard, the rice paper Apsara dancer from Cambodia, the Vietnamese propaganda paintings – they’re all collecting dust in the garage. Usually I can’t wait to hang things up, to adorn the walls with family photographs and memories of our life lived across the world. Rich memories come to mind often, vivid …

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Put Down Roots

Tips to put down roots as globally mobile families

The sun bore down mercilessly, as I made my way to find this tree in the intense Middle East heat. It was hard to miss it. Standing alone; tall and proud with its roots on a hill in the middle of the Arabian Desert, surrounded only by sand was one of Bahrain’s top tourist attractions. The locals called it “Shajarat-al-Hayat” in Arabic, which meant “The Tree of Life.” As you gaze up at this 32 feet tall Mesquite tree with …

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Please Love

Please Love

I took this photograph of a building in Berlin, after a long day of walking through monuments and museums. I pored over stories of the second world war. I witnessed the corner where the nazis burned books and imagined free speech and free thinking, creative ideas turning to ash. As a writer, I cannot fathom losing the right to express myself. Yet, there are many places where this was and is currently a reality. I read the stories of desperate …

Increase Your Fun Factor on LULU Day!

LULU Day

November 14th is Loosen Up and Lighten Up Day (or LULU Day). A day to let it all roll off your back. A go-with-the-flow kind of day. But, if you’re a recovering perfectionist like me, “kicking back” takes effort. Learning how to “take it is easy” is a life skill and depending upon where you live, it may be a survival skill (i.e. Type A personalities living in Mediterranean countries [me]). What would it take for you to say, Just for …

Make a difference every day

Photo by Tim Marshall on Unsplash

On October 28th in the United States, we celebrate Make a Difference Day – a day dedicated to service for the benefit of others, through organized volunteer events across the country. It’s a great concept and it has many benefits – it encourages people to volunteer, it supports great causes and a wide variety of non-profits and through its awards program, it provides cash as well as volunteer time. But it is only one day. How do we make a …

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The Expat Introvert: 3 Top Tips

the expat introvert

Let’s face facts; like it or not, the expat culture is an extroverted one.   Expats meet and greet one another frequently over drinks, (it’s also a drinking culture) coffee, dinners, parties and sports. This can pose a challenge for the expat introvert who is most happy at home curled up with a good book, or having a one-on-one in-depth conversation. What can the expat introvert do to optimize their experience abroad, while remaining true to their introverted nature? Tip # …

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Crossing Cultures with Your Child’s Health Condition

child's health condition

During my years as a child life specialist in the United States, I provided psychosocial care to children and families who were facing a hospitalization.  My job was to predict potential stressors and help shift the perception of threat so that kids would feel less anxious and more in control.  The idea was to help kids take an active role in their own medical care, allowing them to thrive not only physically, but emotionally and developmentally. I was part of a …

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Letting Go of First Borns

letting go of first borns Angela Walker I Am A Triangle

I just dropped off my first born son at university. For the weeks and months leading up to this day I spoke to friends, both expat and “muggles” about their experience of letting go of first borns. I wanted to be prepared and allow the process to unfold naturally and be present to the unique journey that we were both about to embark on. This was huge. A massive moment to mark the end of his childhood and an enormous …