The guilt of distance

Guilt of Distance | I Am A Triangle

At the foot of his bed, I sat staring up at Superman’s tired face while I helped him put his feet through the legs of his trousers. Both of our eyes were welled with tears, and I’m sure at that moment we both had never thought this day would ever come. Seeing my father so ill was not what I had imagined I would be dealing with during our visit to the USA. I’ve known my dad wasn’t the guy …

Phoenix Rising: a reflection on expat resilience and health crisis abroad

phoenix rising

“Have the courage to rise from the challenges of life like a phoenix from the flames or you’ll get lost in the ashes of despair, pain, and regret.” ― Nanette Mathews   Survive-Cope-Expand-Thrive As the wife of a neurosurgeon in a region of Italy known for adventure tourism, I often hear the kinds of stories that make most people move to get ducks in order before their next trip: a bike accident during their 50th wedding anniversary trip across Europe; …

Grief and Grieving: a right or wrong way?

I Am A Triangle Grief and Grieving

Grief and grieving. The shock, even though we know someone will die as they age or illness comes, there is still shock when it happens. This is followed very quickly by a funeral which brings so many more elements into this shock time. Being with family or not being able to be there, travel, expense, lack of sleep and the normal things in your life all consume your first days after death. Then your daily routine returns. Now, you ask: …

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Ghosts Know No Borders

When you lose someone your guts fall out. But here’s something I never thought about until I lost three of the most important people in my life and my dog in one year, all while living overseas – dead people are everywhere and ghosts know no borders. There was an automatic movement that your hand made when it reached to dial her number, that it now only almost makes, knowing she won’t be on the other end of the call. …