Increase Your Fun Factor on LULU Day!

LULU Day

November 14th is Loosen Up and Lighten Up Day (or LULU Day). A day to let it all roll off your back. A go-with-the-flow kind of day. But, if you’re a recovering perfectionist like me, “kicking back” takes effort. Learning how to “take it is easy” is a life skill and depending upon where you live, it may be a survival skill (i.e. Type A personalities living in Mediterranean countries [me]).

What would it take for you to say,

Just for today, on LULU Day, I will:Loosen Up and Lighten Up LULU Day the Fun Factor

What would be better in your life?  …Just asking.

I’m asking because I am far from the ivory armchair of lollygaggers. Loosening up and lightening up does not come naturally to me. I’ve heard “lighten up” and “relax” from well meaning (more like annoyed) people in my life for as long as I can remember. Now, I take this s%^# very seriously. Mindful walking, yoga, conscious breath, guided relaxation, only someone like me could make these practices my “work”.  But, that’s the point, isn’t? We can learn to relax and up the Fun Factor in our lives.

STEP ONE

Decide and Declare.  One thing I realized after deciding to increase my F Factor is that we are faced with tiny decisions all day long that can either increase or painfully decrease our Fun Factor for the day.  When I’m really focused, I wake up in the morning and set my intention, “I, Carolyn Parse, greet this day joyfully, gratefully, and with determination to have more fun and be more fun, so that love and abundance have a place to grow.”

Ask yourself, “In the end (of the day, life, week, moment), what do I want?”  If the answer is more fun, joy, love, or laughter, make decisions throughout the day that lead you there.

STEP TWO

Define it. What does “Loosen Up and Lighten Up” mean to you?  What’s fun or funny to my kid is often a lot different than it is to me.  For example, I don’t think it’s hilarious to be the one running around the house mooning everyone (hmm…or am I just blocked?).

Refer back to the initial question, “What would be better in my life if I (fill in the blank from bullet points above)?

Write it down.

STEP THREE

Decrease obstacles.  Ask yourself, “What’s getting in the way of my flexibility?  What’s getting in the way of lightness in my life?” Once you are aware of your fun blockers, you can get to work on diminishing them.

You might begin by examining old tapes that run through your head (e.g. “Jane is the serious one. She gets things done,” says her mother in front of her sister.).  Then, take a look at your beliefs and how, even those that serve you well in one area of your life, may hold you back when it comes to the Fun Factor (e.g. “Serious people are smarter, achieve more, accomplish more.  Having fun is being lazy, self-indulgent, has to be earned, etc.”). Finally, start paying attention to  Thinking Errors. These thoughts are mostly negative, often untrue, and can be debilitating and defeating.  Some of us call them our “gremlins” or the voice of our “inner critic“.

Identify one or two that are directly related to your ability to be flexible and light.  Get to work, enlisting help when if you get stuck on your own.

STEP FOUR

Do it. Start increasing your Fun Factor a little every day. Look at your typical day and choose one or two places where you could loosen up a bit. Say yes to activities that appeal to your playful side or that increase opportunities to relax.

Create “touchstones” and place them where you’ll come across them often throughout the day to remind you of your priorities.  I’ve used 8X11 signs as well as little cards that I placed in my purse, used as bookmark, posted on my bulletin board, taped to the mirror or inside the toiletry cabinet, and the back of the bedroom door.  You can also use an actual stone, smooth or embossed with a word of inspiration. Keep it in your pocket, within easy reach of your fingertips, as a silent reminder.

In addition, I’ve gone as far as to color code my appointment calendar to include a “fun and enjoyment” category.  My voice lessons, band rehearsals, time with friends, morning walk, and yoga are all labeled purple for this reason. When I’m really focused on increasing my F Factor, I can quickly see if, and when, I am falling short.

Remember not to change too much too fast or put too much pressure on yourself. Start with small things. After all, LULU Day is all about Loosening Up and Lightening Up, not Tightening Up and Bogging Down!

WTF Factor

For me, upping the F Factor means prioritizing fun, connection, peace, and good stress over perfection, isolation, conflict, and distress. This takes effort when juggling relationships, household responsibilities, a professional life, an inner life, and the care and guidance of a sharp-witted, busy seven year old. Ironically, when my son was little, I called him LULU.  Somehow, I knew becoming a parent was all about learning to loosen up and lighten up!

My methodology is a variation of  Covey’s Think Win-Win and Put First Things First, but I’d prefer to ask, WTF?  Where’s the fun?

Happy LULU Day to all of you! Get loose and lighten your load.

As Larry, The Cable Guy once said, “It’s nice if people can finally loosen up a little bit and just go out laugh at silliness. I mean, people take themselves way too seriously sometimes.”

Author: Carolyn Parse Rizzo

Carolyn is a Certified Child Life Specialist, Healthcare and Vitality/Core Energy™ Coach and trainer living in Northern Italy with her multi-cultural, bi-lingual family. Her private practice, Interval Coaching and Consulting, supports all sectors of expats in building resilience through healthcare challenges and change. An expressive-arts enthusiast, Carolyn feeds her soul and builds grit by singing vintage tunes in local wineries with a 20 piece big band and practicing her Morning Walk up the foothills of the Alps. Carolyn’s definition of “home”? Home is where you feel like you!

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