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Race

Mulatto Math

I never thought in a million years I’d be writing a blog post about race – for an expat community. I mean, as a British white women, is it really my place? But hang on a minute….. I have lived in 11 countries all over the world, I have my own race related stories, good ones, bad ones and very ugly ones. The thing is, as a white woman, in a serious conversation about race, at some point I can’t …

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At the Intersection of Important Events: Love and Breath in 76 Seconds

The Butterfly Effect I don’t believe things happen for a predetermined reason, but I do believe there are Intersections of Important Events that, when noticed and acted upon, can create an extraordinary life. The more you pay attention, the more you see the that everything is connected somehow. It’s a little like The Butterfly Effect— that part of Chaos Theory that says a single occurrence, no matter how small, can change the course of the universe forever.  My expat love story was born …

Wayside, A Repatriation Reminder

Nitsa Repatriation

A storm is pummeling the coast of my country as I write this. The wind and the water, whips my home, where I have been back living in for one year. My gutter went wayside, the bottom of it flying across the back yard. Instead of getting it, I stare at it the white metal, rolling around from out my back window. It was the quietness of rainstorms such as these that I loved most about Munich. Days I could …

The 7 Things I Love About The Foreign Service

foreign service love

My husband joined the Department of State’s Foreign Service (the U.S. diplomatic corps) seven years ago. He didn’t apply to join for many years although we are both international travel and language aficionados, met while studying abroad in Russia, and lived there together for two years after college graduation. He did not want me to compromise my career and move around the world every two to three years. So he waited to accept the offer until the day before the deadline to return the signed …

Layers of Loss

layers of loss i am a triangle

It was New Years Eve in Venezuela. My fourth country. I had recently met a man who worked in the hotel business. I am English, he Italian. As he was the assistant F&B manager in a fancy pancy hotel we booked into the same hotel for the night. He didn’t invite me to the party because he would be working and we had just met so I didn’t know anyone who was attending. He put me in the most amazing …

Grief and Grieving: a right or wrong way?

I Am A Triangle Grief and Grieving

Grief and grieving. The shock, even though we know someone will die as they age or illness comes, there is still shock when it happens. This is followed very quickly by a funeral which brings so many more elements into this shock time. Being with family or not being able to be there, travel, expense, lack of sleep and the normal things in your life all consume your first days after death. Then your daily routine returns. Now, you ask: …

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Introducing Virtual Gatherings

I Am A Triangle virtual gathering

Introducing Virtual Gatherings! I love love love our community and want to spend more time with you! While I’ve been able to meet MANY of you as our family has traveled around the world, I want to see more of your faces!  👋🏼  We have had our TriCONNECTs (in person gatherings that are city specific) for a few years now, and it’s time to revamp the way we gather as Triangles. I’m setting the virtual dinner table for you and …

How to avoid relationship problems with this one tip.

You have been there a thousand and one times. At dawn you begin the daily struggle of getting your kids out of bed, clothed, fed and ideally teeth brushed before bringing them to school. You ask your kids to jump in the car, and tell yourself, “There is no shame in arriving to school in my pjs.” The kids make it on time, with lunches and water bottles in tow. Victorious! You rush back home to meet the electrician, whom …

Living with a Sense of Wonder

“The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.” ~ W.B. Yeats Over the winter break, my family and I traveled to Borneo for two weeks. During those two weeks, we navigated the choppy waves of South China Sea, drifted down the peaceful waters of rivers, and clambered the rugged terrains of rain forests and mountains. We enjoyed the flavors of local and aboriginal foods. We saw in the wild all kinds of majestic, …

Braving the Wilderness

Braving the Wilderness

We are tackling Brene Brown’s book, Braving the Wilderness, for our first I Am A Triangle Book Club! We have read and discussed the first several chapters, but it’s not too late for you to join in! Check out our Braving the Wilderness  Book Club Discussions inside the community! In a fitting-in culture – at home, at work or in our larger community – curiosity is seen as weakness and asking questions equates to antagonism rather than being valued as learning. …