Summer time; “same same but different” every year. As I walk the streets these days, the sound of “ritsch-ratsch” comes out of open windows, moving trucks are parked around many corners. A clear sign that summer holidays are about to start – and so does moving time for many.
- Sometimes you move, sometimes you stay,
- Sometimes you are worried, concerned and anxious, sometimes you are excited of what comes next,
- Sometimes you leave great friends behind, sometimes they leave you behind
- Sometimes all goes according to plan, sometimes not
- Sometimes it is damn hard, sometimes you take it all in a stride
- Sometimes you cry, sometimes you laugh
It is always different, it always brings up different feelings and emotions, no matter how often I experience summer time abroad. I am staying on this year, but it is a summer with a huge turnover of friends, for myself and the kids.
I am excited for my friends, about the new places they will go to and experience. I personally always like the moving part, despite all its toughness. But I am well aware that a lot will have changed once the new school year starts. It might feel a bit like a new start for us again, too, despite staying on.
Reaching the end of the school year you will give many many hugs and send well wishes, with hope that friendships will remain. But knowing full well that often life happens and some friendships, no matter how close and dear they were, may not survive. Hope is always there but reality is often different. But that is part of this life, too. For every hello often comes as well a good bye. Friendships are always important but not always the same.
Last summer I had a discussion with my kids that kept staying with me. It was about how they feel about their friends leaving:
My daughter (then 8) said: “Yes, I am sad but I will be ok.”
My son (then 10) replied: “Yes, I am a bit sad, but this is our life. After all we have this every year and we have been ok.”
A moment that broke my heart and made me proud at the same time. But, as long as we stay open to new people and still embrace friendships, reach out to newcomers, are open-minded when we move and ask for help when needed we are ok. More than ok!
For now, I will fondly listen to the sound of movers packing when I walk the streets, enjoy every talk and memory I make with friends still here, be excited for what lies ahead for them, be open for a new – and old – beginning when school starts again.
Here is a big “cheers” to memories and friendships made and that we made a life like this happen.
To all moving, to all staying behind – I wish you all the very best to new beginnings!
Author: Ann-Katrin van Schie
I am Ann-Katrin, currently living in Tokyo, Japan with my family of five. I have been living abroad, including a repatriation, for over 15 years now. My own experiences and a lot of talks and discussions with others have inspired me to give back. To give support for an overall better wellbeing in various areas of life, especially when but not limited to, living abroad.
With my blog I hope to give others a source of inspiration to feel relaxed and content – or simply said to feel “at ease”!